It’s impossible to be selfish and happy at the same time. I know this from experience, for if I’m honest with myself, I find the days that I am most miserable are the days that I am too focused on myself: on my problems, my frustrations, my weaknesses. I’m certain the same is true for you. Think about the last time you felt sad or weighed down. Maybe it was yesterday, or maybe it’s today. If you take a few moments to reflect, you may find that you are focusing too much on yourself.
We all experience this gravitational pull toward the self. Self-centeredness is one the effects of original sin. But the more self-absorbed we are, the sadder we will be. God did not create us to live for ourselves; He created us to live in service. Jesus said that He did not come to be served, but to serve (Matthew 20:28).
There is a great scene from the Book of Numbers that illustrates the effect of self-centeredness (Numbers 21:4-9). The Israelites, who feel that they are wandering aimlessly in the desert, are pretty angry with Moses and the Lord. Food and water is sparse, and they complain about the food that they do get to eat. So, to discipline them, the Lord sends saraph serpents among them and consequently many people die. The Israelites then acknowledge their sin and ask the Lord to take the serpents away.
Then something interesting happens. The Lord tells Moses to make a bronze saraph and mount it on a pole, and if anyone is bitten they should gaze upon the saraph serpent and they will be healed. Now, jump ahead to Jesus’ words in the Gospel of John: “And just as Moses lifted up the serpent in the desert, so must the Son of Man be lifted up, so that everyone who believes in him may have eternal life” (John 3:14-15). The healing power of the serpent on the pole in the book of Numbers prefigures Jesus on the cross who heals us from our sins.
The Israelites were stuck in themselves; they were focused on their problems and the result was their misery. So the Lord teaches them to stop focusing on themselves by making them gaze upon the saraph, which is a foreshadowing of Jesus hanging on the cross. We too experience punishment when we focus on ourselves; not the punishment of poisonous snakebites, but the punishment of sorrow and self-pity. This sadness that we experience from selfishness is punishment enough; it just doesn’t feel good to us and it drives us deeper into ourselves. As one of my seminary professors said, “sin is its own punishment.”
But there is a solution.
Just as the Israelites were healed by gazing upon the saraph mounted on a pole, you and I are healed of our self-absorption by looking upon Jesus crucified. When we contemplate Jesus on the cross, our hearts are touched by His healing love. When we look lovingly upon the cross, the only response is to imitate Christ’s selfless love. Jesus gave Himself completely in love for our salvation, and as we contemplate Him on the cross, we are compelled to imitate His love by serving others.
This is precisely why I have chosen the crucified Christ as the banner for this blog. Jesus Christ offered Himself in love to the Father for our salvation. We are called to imitate His self-giving love. In fact, the way to holiness is to live in union with Christ imitate His love. The more we meditate on Jesus crucified, the more we will be compelled to live selflessly and advance in the way of holiness.
If we are experiencing difficulties in our lives, if we feel stuck in ourselves, if we are weighed down or sorrowful, there is a spiritual solution that can lift us out of ourselves. There is a way that we can be set free from sorrow. It will take some effort on our part, but the Lord will help us. The solution is simple: live selflessly.
Today, make a decision to live for others. Today, make a decision to serve. Today, make a decision to focus on the needs of others and not on your own needs. Today, make a decision to contemplate Jesus on the cross and let Him live in you so that you can bring His love to others. You will find that your sorrow begins to lift and your eyes will be opened to the beauty of life and the dignity of every person.
Practical Ways to Live Selflessly
The great thing about the blogosphere is you are able to connect with people from all around the world who often enlighten you with their posts. Here’s a post from a blog that will give you some ways to practice living selflessly. In fact, it gives 50 ways to pay it forward! Try one today.
Also, here’s an article on the inspirational priest, and now saint, Damien de Veuster who died serving the lepers of Molokai.
14 responses so far ↓
Bill Bowden // October 12, 2009 at 6:14 pm |
Hi Fr. Najim,
First of all Thanks be to God for having called you to the priesthood! This article on living selfless is awesome, and I thank you for bringing it to us all, we are very blessed to have you as a director of Vocations in RI, and I pray for you and for our seminarians and those young men who are discerning a Vocation to the Priesthood.
May God continue to watch over Holy Mother Church and His Holy Priest,
Bill
Fr. Michael Najim // October 12, 2009 at 8:10 pm |
Bill,
Thanks for your kind words, and thank so much for praying for our seminarians and those men discerning.
God bless you,
Fr. Najim
Rick Majewski // October 13, 2009 at 12:13 pm |
Hi Father Mike,
Thanks so much for your writings, I find them to be timely and very helpful. I really like the connections you make with scripture, linking the old and new testament teachings with what it means to us today. The concepts are simple, the application is the hard part. Thank you for helping point the way.
God Bless,
Rick
Fr. Michael Najim // October 13, 2009 at 1:09 pm |
Rick,
Thanks so much for reading! I’m happy you’re finding it helpful. I was thinking about you and Jackie just yesterday. Keep in touch!
Rachel // October 14, 2009 at 11:17 am |
I found this to be so practical. I really loved the part about making the decision to live for others. I never knew we could still make connections to the Old Testament like Fr. Mike did. So easy to connect to my life. Keep up the great job! : 0 )
Fr. Michael Najim // October 14, 2009 at 11:59 am |
Rachel, Thanks for reading. The beautiful thing about the Bible-Old or New Testament- is that the whole thing is relevant to our life!
Peace!
Fr. Michael Najim http://www.catholicpriest.com
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Belinda Munoz // October 15, 2009 at 12:46 am |
“We too experience punishment when we focus on ourselves; not the punishment of poisonous snakebites, but the punishment of sorrow and self-pity.”
Thank you for distilling this complex condition (that I’m sure we’re all familiar with!) into one sentence.
An act of kindness can bring so much joy. Why is this simple truth so elusive?
Fr. Michael Najim // October 15, 2009 at 1:11 pm |
I think it’s so elusive because it’s so easy for us to get stuck in ourselves, in our own worlds, and simply to stay there. We become comfortable in our sorrow. However, once we realize that living selflessly is the WAY out of ourselves and the way to happiness, then it’s easier for us to form the habit of living selflessly.
margaret // October 15, 2009 at 2:11 am |
Thank you father mike, it really helps.
Fr. Michael Najim // October 15, 2009 at 1:12 pm |
Margaret,
Thanks for reading! I’m glad you found this post helpful.
J.M.J. // October 16, 2009 at 9:22 am |
Hi Fr Najim,
In other words, we find our hapiness in helping the others. Thanks father for this article. May you keep on blesing by the Holy Spirit.
love!
Helen // October 22, 2009 at 2:52 pm |
Thank You, again, Fr. Najim:
Again, Your writing is very inspiring and convicting. You know..maybe because I’m getting old…. but so often I can remember the Lord teaching me some lessons.. and thru the years… re-teaching me (as per Your article). So.. here I am, flabber gasted once again, that this isn’t the first time I’ve heard these words… and yet, I seemed to have filed them away. Thank God He’s patient!!! Whew!!
Bless and thank You, dear Fr…. I am so thankful to our God for You and for Your cooperation in allowing Him to use YOU.
Helen
Fr. Michael Najim // October 23, 2009 at 11:32 am |
Helen,
Thanks for reading. It’s true, sometimes the Lord needs to remind us of the important lessons that we learned in our past.
Peace!
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