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Macey’s Story

Dear Friends,

On this Saturday morning, I wanted to share an inspirational story with you.  For the last few years, my dear friends, Scott and Kim King, have experienced every parents worst nightmare: their daughter Macey was diagnosed with cancer over three years ago. Macey is now ten and, thank God, is cancer free.  She has relapsed twice, but we are all hopeful that the Lord will keep her cancer free.

Her story is one of suffering and inspiration.  She is a heroic, faith-filled little girl, and Scott and Kim’s faith, although tested, has been nothing short of remarkable.  They have a beautiful family (Macey is the only girl, but she has four brothers who love her dearly!). (See picture below).

If you have a chance, please watch this 6-minute video narrated by Macey’s mom, Kim.  It really highlights the importance of faith when dealing with life’s difficulties.

Please continue to pray for Macey and the King family, and for all people–especially children–suffering from cancer.

Usually when I write a post for this blog I reflect on the spiritual life and give some practical advice about how to live in deeper friendship with the Lord.  However, this post, prompted by a recent experience, is more a reflection on the gift of friendship.  If anything, I hope it makes you more grateful for the friends that God has blessed you with.

On Tuesday morning I drove 2 ½ hours to southern Maine to join four of my brother priests for an extended day away.  Normally, if I do get away for an overnight, I drive home to Westerly to visit with my family and to have a little downtime.  I have my Friday routine: breakfast at the Cooked Goose restaurant followed by a little time in front of their fireplace; lunch with mom on her break from work (or an afternoon of golf in the warm weather); and an afternoon cup of coffee at Perks and Corks cafe where I’ll generally do some reading and writing. Continue Reading »

Most of you are probably familiar with the Serenity Prayer.  This prayer has become a source of consolation and strength to Christians and non-Christians alike for the simple reason that it gives voice to our human experience and it resonates deeply in our hearts: God grant me the serenity 
to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.

Can’t we all relate to these words?  How true that we need God’s help to accept so many of the things we cannot change and courage to change so many of the things we can; and we certainly need His wisdom to know the difference so that we don’t spend our days in constant frustration.  But did you know that there is a second part to this beautiful prayer that is essential to living the first part? Continue Reading »

12-Step programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous have helped countless people around the world to win the battle over addiction.  The 12 Step program, which is really a lived spirituality, helps people to see their Goliath, to name their Goliath, and, with God’s help, to overcome their Goliath.  I call it a Goliath because most people in the grip of addiction feel that the giant is just too big, that they can’t defeat it.  And the truth is that they can’t defeat it, not with their own will power.  But more on that point in a moment.

You need not have a serious addiction to benefit from the 12-Step program.  We all have Goliaths in our lives: things that keep us down, that we feel are too big to be defeated.  So what does this biblical story (1 Samuel 17) teach us about defeating the Goliath in our lives? Continue Reading »

Christ in Haiti

On Sunday, September 16, 2001, churches and other places of worship across the country were filled to overflowing.  I’ll never forget that day. Masses were standing room at St. Philip’s parish where I was serving.  As I looked out on the congregation, serious and sorrowful faces stared back at me.  Some had tears in their eyes.  After Mass parishioners stood outside, embraced, and spoke about the fear and uncertainty that we were all experiencing and how important it was that we all turn to the Lord during this time.

Two weeks later, Mass attendance was back to “normal.”  The initial shock of the terrorist attack on our country had begun to wear off.  But I’ll never forget the solidarity that we experienced during that time.  In this midst of immense suffering we were united, and a profound goodness flowed from the depths of peoples’ hearts.

Tragedy.  It has a way of uniting us.  It has a way of breaking down the walls that so often divide us.  It has a way of bringing out the very best in each and every human heart.

Enter Haiti.

Last weekend at the seminary where I live we hosted a retreat for men discerning the priesthood.  One young man who is from Haiti asked the haunting question: Do we believe that God did this?  I and the other priests and seminarians answered with an unequivocal “No!”  I reject Pat Robertson’s claim that this earthquake happened because the Haitian people made a pact with the devil to drive out the French.  There’s an interesting scene in the Gospel of Luke that I believe also refutes Robertson’s claim.  Jesus refers to a tragic event that occurred in Siloam.  He says, “…those eighteen people who were killed when the tower at Siloam fell on them—do you think they were more guilty than everyone else who lived in Jerusalem?”  Jesus’ answer?  “By no means!”  (Luke 13:4).  Our Lord makes clear that just because those people were killed does not mean it was because of something evil that they did.

I can’t pretend to answer why disasters happen.  I do know that, for some reason, God allows them to happen.  He does not will them to happen.  There’s a big difference, and it may be a mystery that we comprehend only when we are with Him for eternity.

I do know that tragedy unites us, that it brings out the best in us, that, even if just for a moment, it makes us drop our labels of liberal and conservative, believer and non-believer and reach out to those who are suffering.

I also believe that in a mystical way the Lord is suffering with and in the people of Haiti.  He’s with them.  How else can we explain what the Lord said to Saul: “Saul, Saul, why are you persecuting me?” (Acts 9:4).  Saul was persecuting the Christians, and in persecuting them he was persecuting Christ who dwelled with them.  We can say the same concerning Haiti: Christ is suffering with and in the people of Haiti, and in reaching out to the people of Haiti we are also reaching out to Christ, for “Whatever you do for the least of my brothers and sisters, you do for me” (Matthew 25:40).

God is with them.  But He also wants to be with them and reach out to them through you and me!

Living a holy life requires that we reach out to those in need.  If you have not already given to help the people of Haiti, I strongly encourage you to do so.  Personally, I gave to Catholic Relief Services; but you can give to the charity of your choice.  If you simply cannot give, please pray for them.  But remember Mother Teresa’s words: we must give until it hurts.

P.S. I’m stealing an idea from a fellow blogger and I hope it challenges you: for every comment that is left on this post (not on facebook but here on my blog) I will donate an additional five dollars to Catholic Relief Services.  Don’t be afraid to challenge others to give as well!

Happy New Year!  I just returned from a wonderful retreat, pilgrimage, and vacation all in one.  I spent about a week and a half in France with four of my brother priests.  We had a prayerful and wonderful time.  The highlight of the trip was spending four days in Ars, the small town where St. John Vianney lived and ministered for forty years.  I’m sure I’ll write more in the future about the spiritual lessons learned on this wonderful journey.

I thought for my first post this year I’d list the top five posts on my blog.  I do this as an introduction for some of my new readers and as a refresher for some who have been reading since the beginning.

Here they are:

A Simple but Powerful New Year’s Resolution

Are You Missing the Gift of the Present

Love Your Weakness

The Solution to Your Sorrow

How to Start Your Day in Holiness

And, as a bonus, here’s what I believe was my most heartfelt post: And a Little Child Led Me

Please note that I’ll be on retreat and then a little vacation until January 9.  On my retreat I will pray for all of you who read my blog.  I may not be posting again until mid-January.  My new post is right below this disclaimer!

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“Make yourself a capacity and I will make myself a torrent” (The Lord’s words to Blessed Angela of Foligno).

The Christmas rush is over and now we turn the page to a New Year.  Many of us may be tempted to feel regret for failing to enter into the spirit of Advent.  Each year we promise the Lord and ourselves that we will focus on Him and not get caught up in the cultural rush, but so often we do lose our focus.  The good news is that even though the world thinks Christmas is over, the Church continues to celebrate this great feast until the Baptism of the Lord (Sunday, January 10).  We can take time, then, over the next several days to rejoice in the salvation that has come to us in the Person of Jesus Christ.  We can prayerfully draw close to the baby Jesus.

But what about the New Year?  Many of us will begin it with a new attitude and new resolutions.  And in two weeks some of us will be dealing with the frustration that comes from failing to keep our resolutions.  But I have a solution to that.  I propose one simple but powerful resolution that each of us should make for the New Year.  Just one.  And if we keep this one resolution we will experience tremendous spiritual growth and it will overflow to the other areas of our lives.  Others will notice this growth and it will not only help us but will affect our relationships as well.

The one resolution that I propose is to spend more time in silent prayer.

If we learn anything from the final days leading up to Christmas it’s that our culture is too fast-paced, too consumer driven, too filled with distractions, and too noisy.  But our hearts long for silence.  So why not make more time for silence during this New Year?  True, to many people, it doesn’t seem like a life-changing resolution.  In fact, we can imagine the looks on peoples’ faces when they ask us what our resolutions are for the New Year.  “Oh, me?  I’m going to spend more time in silence.”  “Silence?” their looks may be betray, “how is that going to increase productivity in your life?”  However, silence and contemplation, more than anything else, will enhance the quality of our lives—if we only give it a chance.

So often the frustrations and difficulties we face in life are exacerbated by the flurry of activity that constitutes our daily existence.  We’re constantly on the go, rushing from one thing to the next; and when we’re not on the go our minds are filled with distractions about what needs to get done.

But what if we let go this year?  No, I’m not talking about being irresponsible and neglecting our duties.  I’m talking about taking time each day to simply let go and let God, to truly make time for Him and Him alone.  As the Lord said to Blessed Angela of Foligno: “Make yourself a capacity and I will make myself a torrent.”  What the Lord was saying is that we must make room for Him in our lives, and if we do He will fill our lives with His love and the grace we need to live in holiness.  Our hearts long for God.  Why, then, do we spend so much time on other things and neglect Him?  The answer to this, I believe, is because we don’t have the patience to reap the fruits of silence.  Spending silent time with the Lord is the one thing that can improve our lives, but some don’t believe there’s much value in silent prayer because it’s completely contrary to our instant-gratification culture.  Being silent takes spiritual effort, but as we build our “silence muscles” our capacity increases for a deeper friendship with God.

So what am I proposing?  Make one New Year’s resolution: to spend time in silence with the Lord every day.  Begin with just ten minutes.  It doesn’t matter what time of the day.  Whatever works best.  Gradually increase your silent time as the year progresses.  You will be amazed how your life begins to change.  And your silent time with the Lord will lead to progress in other areas of your life because the Lord will teach you in the silence.  He will speak to your heart and show you where you need to change.

The key is not to get discouraged.  So what if you keep your resolution for a week and then miss a couple of days? Keep going.  Just because you fail doesn’t mean you have to give up your resolution for the year.  Persevere.  Keep in mind that you are trying to make a greater capacity for the Lord in your life.  Some days you will feel He is filling your heart and expanding your capacity; other days you may feel that you simply can’t sit still.  Keep going!  Keep renewing your commitment to silence.  It’s about progress not perfection.

So this is my one resolution: to spend more time in silence in order to make a greater capacity for the Lord.  I invite you to join me.  True, I have a few other resolutions, but they too are simple.  Simple is powerful.  Silence is powerful.

“A God who became so small could only be mercy and love” (St. Therese of Lisieux).

Last Monday evening I was blessed to visit Amy and Paul and their newborn baby boy, Joseph, at the hospital.  It was last April when I celebrated Amy and Paul’s wedding, and it’s been a joy seeing them eagerly anticipate the arrival of Joseph.  A few weeks ago they’d asked me if I’d be willing to bless them and little Joseph before they left the hospital.  Of course, I was happy to do so. Continue Reading »

Beginning Again

I had missed my tenth shot in a row and I was deeply frustrated.  I simply couldn’t do it.  As much as I tried, I couldn’t put the ball in the basket with my left hand.  After all, I’m right-handed, and for the life of me I couldn’t understand why my father was putting me through this torture of learning how to shoot the basketball with my left hand.  I was just a little kid, probably ten or eleven years old.  I was frustrated with myself and with him.

“I can’t do it,” I said with frustration.

“Yes you can,” he replied passionately.

“No, I can’t.”

“Keep trying.  You can do it.” Continue Reading »

On this blog I have not made it a habit to venture into the world of current affairs, but if you haven’t noticed Tiger Woods has been in the news quite a bit lately, and it’s not because he won another big tournament.  In fact, he experienced the biggest loss of his career: his pristine reputation.  On a deeper level, however, it’s more than a loss of his reputation; it’s an utter failure to live his marriage vows and to be the father and man he’s supposed to be.

Admittedly, I’ve always been a huge Tiger fan.  I greatly admire his talent and—until last week—always respected the way he carried himself. Continue Reading »

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